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Celebrate Recovery®

CO-DEPENDENT WOMAN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SEXUALLY ADDICTED MAN

 

Exploring the Issue of Being a Co-Dependent Woman in a Relationship With a Sexually Addicted Man

Many of us blame ourselves for the addict’s behavior: We tell ourselves, “If only I were more attractive, thinner, taller, shorter, etc.—if only I were more sexual.”

We give in to others’ behaviors, only to lose ourselves in the process. Sometimes, we have even participated in their sexual fantasies, or joined in by using pornography with them, leaving us feeling used and abused. Some of us ignored or did not recognize the signs that the addict was living a secret life.

Many of us blame the addict and their behavior for every problem in our relationship. We believe that if they would only change then everything would be fine. In essence, co-dependents are addicted to their spouse’s behaviors. They either give in to the addict, try to control them, or make them stop.

We have sometimes pretended to family, friends, and co-workers that everything is “wonderful.” We have been unforgiving and sometimes punishing toward the addict.

Characteristics of a Co-Dependent Woman in a Relationship with a Sexually Addicted Man may include but are not limited to:

How We Find Recovery

Through a relationship with Jesus Christ as Savior and Higher Power, and by working through the 8 recovery principles and the Christ-centered 12 steps, we can find freedom from our hurts, hang ups and habits.

Characteristics of Someone in Recovery for Being a Co-Dependent Woman in a Relationship with a Sexually Addicted Man May Include, But are not Limited to:

Small Group Guidelines

  1. Keep your sharing focused on your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. Please limit your sharing to three to five minutes.
  2. There is NO cross-talk please. Cross-talk is when two people engage in a dialogue during the meeting. Each person sharing is free to express feelings without interruptions.
  3. We are here to support one another. We will not attempt to “fix” one another.
  4. Anonymity and confidentiality are basic requirements. What is shared in the group stays in the group. The only exception is when someone threatens to injure themselves or others.
  5. Offensive language has no place in a Christ-centered recovery group.

 

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